the Difference Between the Vision and the Fantasy.
Posted: Wednesday, August 18, 2010
by Katherine Bouglai
Coaching For Singles.
When I first learned about The Secret and the Law of Attraction, I was suffering from fantasy addiction. I used to fantasize about some guy at work or class I was taking and wonder if I could manifest my dreams about this guy into a reality. Never happened. I wondered if perhaps Law of Attraction worked in every other area my life but romance. Now I know the real reason. Law of Attraction does not work with fantasies.
In order to manifest what we want in our lives, we must first have a vision of it. Having a vision is a good thing, it will motivate us to go out there after what we want, especially if the vision is juicy enough to pursue. A fantasy however is not necessarily a good thing. It has the underlying meaning of not being realistic and it has a tendency to drift you off, away from your focus. Your vision is what gets manifested and what will eventually turn into reality. A fantasy never turns into a reality because it's underlying purpose of is to get away from reality. It is not realistic to begin with. A fantasy is about control and it is a way of coping with not being happy with what you have now. Therefore it can be addictive. When having a vision, one would typically be fully aware of the reality, accept it for what it is and even find something to be grateful for.
How would you know if you are creating a vision or simply fantasizing? When you are having a vision, you would typically be constantly in touch with reality. Even if you don't like it, you would look for ways to improve your current situation or how to make what you want happen. When you have a vision of your ideal relationship, the moment you see someone who obviously doesn't fit your vision, you are capable of making a sound decision to end the relationship. That would be realistic. When you're having a fantasy, not only would you ignore the obvious warning signs, you would simply be incapable of seeing the real person in front of you. In fact, you most likely wouldn't even want to see the real him or her because your fantasy alone is giving you enough satisfaction. Having a relationship with this person is not even part of your intentions. That is why, when you see the real person you were fantasizing about the day before, you feel uncomfortable.
Many people misunderstand the difference between being realistic and pessimistic. They think people who are optimistic are dreamers. But the truth is, I was a dreamer when I was most pessimistic because I didn't like my reality and didn't want to acknowledge it. But now, I prefer to see the reality for what it is and find the way to make the best out of it. That's being truly optimistic, I think.
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